I’ve been absent from the blog for a while now. I won’t apologize because I just felt I had nothing to say or write about and I didn’t want to waste your time or mine coming up with something arbitrary and pointless. I now, however, do feel like I have something to say. Here goes:

I’ve been busy. Very busy. I keep telling myself that. It’s true. I’m not telling a falsehood when I say it. Between my full time job (46 hrs/wk right now), multiple church activities (deacon duties, Sunday school teacher, youth group teacher, etc), and the responsibilities of home ownership along with my own little side projects, I don’t have much free time. Or rather, I don’t take full advantage of the time I have. I admit, when I have time, instead of doing things I’m often paralyzed by having to pick something to work on over another thing so I get little to nothing done on anything. I’m busy, yes, but it shouldn’t keep me from doing what I want/love/enjoy to do. Instead, I find I need to make time to do the things that are for me. It doesn’t always work out, but I’m getting better at it.

It’s spring time in central Mississippi. Seeing as how I work I the plant industry, it’s arguably the busiest time of the year (hence the long work weeks). I tend to be worn out and beat down by the time I get home every day. So much so I don’t even want to do the things I enjoy. I just waste my evenings in front of the TV, stuffing my face. Yet, when I make myself do something for me, like play guitar or work on a project, it makes me feel better. It’s like I feel I’ve accomplished something. Spring is busy, but I still need to do things to relax and rejuvenate me. What good is any overtime if I’m too exhausted to enjoy the fruits of the labor?

Now, I do need to apologize. When I first started this blog about a year and a half ago, I mentioned that I was working on making an album of my own music. This has not happened, obviously. I let life , busyness, get in the way. I got frustrated and gave up. I walked away from writing any music or lyrics for a while. I’m sorry. I apologize to myself and to my readers. I let us all down. I’m getting back up and I’m going to finish writing and recording my music. It may not be perfect or professional, but it will be mine and one going to finish it.

Thanks for letting me ramble and flesh out some things going through my head. I hope my attempt at encouraging myself is helpful and encouraging to you. I’m going to try and do better about regularly posting here again. Thank you.

First, I need to apologize for Wednesday. I’m sorry for not adding any content. This week has been overwhelmingly busy and I just didn’t plan out my time for writing very well. On that note, I thought it might be interesting to look at the idea of pausing and doing over.

Life gets busy. When we’re in school we think, “when I’m an adult I won’t be nearly as busy.” Too bad it’s not true. I’ve done nothing but get busier, older, more tired, and less free time as I’ve gotten a full time job, married, and a house. There is always something on the list. It’s never done. Just when you think you’ve cleared everything off, BAM, something else shows up. Now I’m even on several committees at church and even a co-chair of one. Life gets crazy. It’s insane how much stuff we cram into our schedules. Sometimes it seems we could really use a pause button or even a do-over button. I know I can’t be the only one who feels this way. Sometimes I think we just need to set our lists and schedules aside and take a break. We need to re-charge and we shouldn’t feel guilty about it. The problem is everyone makes us feel bad about taking time for ourselves. Well, here’s you permission to take a break and not feel guilty. If anyone tells you otherwise, just show them this and say that you have permission.

Why so busy all the time?

February 20, 2013

I’ve noticed something in recent years. When I was a kid, we had free time. I mean, sure, we had school and had homework to do, and sometimes little league, but we didn’t have every moment of our lives planned out. Every weekend I hung out with my friends at someone’s house and we just hung. We talked and had fun. Maybe we played basketball or watched a movie or played a board/card game, but we just did what we felt like. It wasn’t scripted, it was spontaneous, wholesome, supervised in some way, fun. Now kids aren’t allowed to just hang out and have fun. They have to have a specific plan at all times for everything they’re doing, usually decided by the parents. I’m all for getting your kids involved in something and being involved in your kids’ lives, but you don’t need to script them. My Sunday School kids have busier schedules then I do, and I sometimes work almost 50 hours a week! That’s crazy! Maybe someone can help me understand why parents have started scripting every waking moment of their kids’ lives. Is it out of a fear that they will do something wrong or stupid? Are they so afraid their kids are going to go out and do something bad, illegal, dangerous, etc that they going into Planmaster General mode? Let me tell you something; if your kid wants to do something you don’t want them to do, they’ll find a way to do it. The real question to think about is if you’re the kind of parent they can talk to after they’ve messed up, because they will mess up. Do you trust your kid enough to let them be a kid? I don’t want you to get me wrong here, because I believe in rules and consequences. You lay out the rules and consequences for keeping them and breaking them. Keeping them earns privileges and trust, breaking them earns punishment. I just feel so bad for this generation of kids. They have so many advantages, but in return for those advantages, they’ve lost the freedom of being young and having few commitments.

Questions: What do you think? Are kids too busy? What can be done about it?why do you think parents are so controlling of their kids’ schedules?

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