Thank You!

January 30, 2013

February 7th will mark 6 months since I started this blog. Today I want to start off by doing something I should’ve done a while back. I want to thank all my readers from the bottom of my heart. It’s been so great to work on posts and then have others read, like, and share them. I especially want to thank the people who have followed me. I’m going to list their blogs here so you can check them out, which you really should, because they are nifty, smart, fun, interesting people. No, I don’t know them all, but they’re following me so they must be pretty great. I’m listing them in order that they followed me.

Amour Shoes
merrynunnari
anonymous
Patrick Latter
Katieyhihidc
ArtlessPoems
Words Fusion
EGrizzly305
Diamond Mike Watson
Khushbo
CrazyKayKay
Hapsters
Silk Road Collector

A huge, huge, HUGE thanks to all of you! if there is something I can do for you, just let me know.

I do have a few other people I’d like to thank and have you check out.

My friend Joseph Craven runs an awesome blog known as The Greatest Blog of All Time, and he has encouraged me through his writing and our conversations.

Knox McCoy writes a serial novel called Those That Remain and does lots of great posts with his take on classic TV icons and current TV show recaps with his special twist. You need to check out knoxmccoy.com. If you don’t find something there to tickle your fancy, you must have had your fancy surgically removed.

Jared Hollier writes insightful posts about faith, which encourage me when I’m having a rough day on his blog at jaredhollier.com. He also writes about life in this crazy world. Check him out for a little encouragement or a different look at life.

Finally, Tyler Tarver makes me laugh. His blog, tylertarver.com, is full of humorous takes on life and fun videos and links to his other projects. Check it out for a chuckle.

Of these four guys, I know one personally, yet they encourage me and have shared my blog posts on occasion on twitter. I’m super thankful for the encouragement they give me, both traditionally and simply through doing what they do. Speaking of what they do (talk about a segue, Knox), these guys do a podcast called The Courtesy Laugh which is super funny. I’d link to the iTunes podcast page, but for some reason my links to podcast pages alway fail miserably. Just type in The Courtesy Laugh in the iTunes search and it will come up under podcasts. Like them on Facebook and check out their website/tumblr. It’s worth your time.

Now then, on to the final order of business, maybe you’ve noticed some of the changes on the site. I’ve updated my widgets to make it easier to find me on twitter, and I’ve finally made a Facebook page for Goteefreak’s Corner, which you can click on right here or in the footer of the page. I’m excited about it and I hope you will go there and like it for me and share it with your friends.

Thanks again, to everyone who reads my blog. I have one more special thanks. Thank you to my loving wife, who reads my posts and gives me insight on them. I love you with my all.

Have a great rest of the week. It’s hump day. You’re half way there. you can make it!

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Happy Poetry Monday! My weekend was so crazy. It was full of fun and interesting things. I hope your weekend was good too. In looking around me, I can’t help but see so much violence and hatred and anger, from the super market to T.V., it’s everywhere.

Everything’s so violent in the world today
So much anger I don’t know what to say.
Where did it come from, why is it here?
When did we start to bow to our fear?

Why not be kind? It’s free to smile.
Give a compliment, chat for a while.
Take some time to make a friend
Or make a call and some fences mend.

Take some time to change a life
A positive word can remove some strife.
There’s no need for us to fear anymore
Let’s take down anger and wipe the floor.

Well, I hope you have a super week and can make a difference in someone’s life by being kind.

Following the Written Rules

January 26, 2013

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What’s the point of all the signs we have up everywhere if nobody follows them and no one enforces them? I have a sign at work that reads, “please do not block the drive,” yet every day, someone blocks the drive. Stores have signs about needing shoes and shirts in order to be there, however almost every time I go in to Walmart or target I see someone without shoes on. What about stop signs? When did they become “slow down” or simply yield signs? Don’t even get me started on how handicapped parking signs now just seem to mean “it’s ok to park here so you’re close to the store as long as you’re quick and don’t get caught.” That’s about the only one that is enforced, to a degree, but not nearly as much as it should be. There are tons of signs with rules on them that nobody pays any heed to or enforces. Should we just give up and take the signs down? Should there be a Rule Sign Task Force to enforce the rules? That would be kind of cool to just have a bunch of ninja-like people around to take down anyone who breaks these rules.

*man walks into store with no shirt on and out of nowhere he’s tackled to the ground by a person in a dark outfit* “Sir, you’ll have to come with me for not covering your torso inside store premises.”

Or even better

someone pees in the pool and a RSTF member comes up from the depths to take them away.

That would be awesome! I don’t know what the best solution is, but we need a solution because its continually getting worse.

Questions: Are there any rules nobody follows that you wish they would? What do you think should be done about all these un-heeded rules? Enforce them? Change them? Remove them? Send them to the Isle of Misfit Rules?

Just a warning, this is a little bit of a longer one. Apparently I had a lot to say and get out on the subject matter. I hope you’ll take the time to read it, share it, and comment on it.

I’ve been reading a really interesting book called “How to Knock Over a 7-Eleven and Other Ministry Training” by Michael Cheshire.

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I don’t agree with everything Cheshire says in the book, but it is full of great stories to encourage and ideas to enable other churches to reach the people around them. When one member of the church was asked why he did all the extra stuff he did for the church (because he worked a crazy schedule and had a wife and kids, but was still always making time to help out and volunteer) he answered, “Because I can, and you can’t,” (he mainly helped with ministries the staff weren’t able to do, like the car repair ministry). This is the same philosophy my grandmother had. When she made my father, as a young man, go to a party that he didn’t want to go to because it wasn’t going to be a good party, he asked her why and she told him he should try and make it a good party. Again, he asked her why he should have to do it, since it wasn’t his party, and her simple answer was, “Because you can.” This was the way she lived her life and she left that legacy to her sons and all her grandkids. We’ve all asked, “Why should I be the one to have to do/deal/suffer this?” in our lives, and I think the appropriate answer is always, “Because you can.”

What would it look like if more Christians lived life this way? Why do something undesirable or hard? Because you’re the one who can do it. Isn’t that exactly what Jesus did? Why did he come and live the life he did, do the things he did, and die the death he did? It wasn’t for the sheer fun and excitement of it. It wasn’t a slow few decades in Heaven with nothing going on for fun so he figured, sure, I’ll give this a try. It’s because he loved us and he was the one who could do it. I now there is much more you can get into with scripture and theology, but I really think it can boil down to these simple facts of love and ability/capability. What if more of us in the church lived life that way. What should be motivating Christians? Should it be fear of rejection and damnation? How about just “covering all the bases” just in case? While there should be a degree of fear involved in the Christian life (a reverent fear of the almighty creator), the thing that should motivate us is love. Why? Well, “We love because he first loved us.” (I John 4:13) God loved us and sent his son for our redemption because he loved us while we were wallowing in sin and spitting in his face. His love is based on himself, not on anything we do. Our love should also be based on God’s love, not on how we’re feeling or how others treat us. We are called to be set apart by love for one another. John 13:34-35 talks about a new commandment being to love one another and how that would set them apart to be know as his disciples by their love for each other. How much backbiting, tearing down, and vile gossip goes on in the church, which is supposed to be a place of Christian love, one for another? Too much, I know because I’ve taken part in it. If we don’t love one another, how can we love our communities? The I John passage above goes on to talk about how if we don’t love our brothers, whom we’ve seen, then we cannot love God, whom we haven’t seen.

In light of all the above, how should we, as Christians, and the church in general be acting? Should we box ourselves away and guard against the evil, sinful world by never coming into contact with it, or should we love the people and communities we have been put close to? I thing we all know the answer. We should be loving in the same manner that Jesus loved those around him. He didn’t tell anyone they weren’t dressed the right way, or they didn’t talk the way he did, or they weren’t cool enough. No, he took in the broken, the hurting, the sorrowful, the sick, and the little kids and he forgave their sins and healed them and accepted them. This is the Christian’s job. We are to love the people. We are also to hate the sin, but I think we’ve got the hating part down as good as anyone, so I really think we need to love those around us simply because we can. We need to do things for our church, even things that we think of as “bellow us” or “above our pay grade”, because we love God and his work on earth, and we are able/capable. It really has to start in our personal lives and our churches. We have to be known by our love for Christ, one another, and then for those around us and in our communities. You can’t just say that some outreach program looks good so you’ll plug it in and it’ll work great. You have to be a friend and come along side people in love, not superiority, without pressure or expecting anything in return. Then, once the relationship is formed and needs have been met, you move to the everlasting needs of the soul. This isn’t new ideology. It’s very old, but in our society of diminishing returns, instant gratification, and health and wealth doctrine, we’ve lost this and just want instant converts ready to work in the church and already mature Christians. We expect the church staff to do everything and forget that the body of Christ is just that, a body. We depend on the same very few people who run all the different programs in the church thinking that they do such a good job, why should we be involved. Think of all the things that could go on in a church life if there was 100% buy in to getting plugged in/involved/whatever you want to call volunteering to help out with church stuff. Why go to a church regularly without being a member? Why go and be a member if you’re get so little from the church that you don’t want to be involved? In some cases it is a problem with the church, but only some. Most of the time it is a problem with the church-goer. My father once told me that if I wasn’t getting anything from worship I needed to look at myself first. Was I preparing my heart for worship? Was I praying for God to open my mind and heart and move me by his word spoken and taught? If I could answer yes to these questions, then I could start looking at the church as the problem, or, honestly, start looking for a new church. If the true word of God is being preached, no matter the source, a Christian can benefit from it. I firmly believe this to be fact.

Now for the “you” part. You can probably guess what I’m going to say because if you’re reading this you must be pretty bright (and good looking and stylish and a generally groovy person), I want to challenge myself, and you, to do things for others, not because we have to or feel obligated to, but because we can and we want to share the love God has poured out on us. I think it’s going to make a difference. The movement of doing things for others, church or not, “because I can” starts right here and right now for me. Join me in it. I think it will revolutionize our societies and communities and churches as well as our individual lives. We act because we can, not because we grudgingly feel like it is a duty we have to fulfill. If you have a gift, use it to reach out to those around you, use it to help your church, use it in ways to honor God, because he gave you that gift. Welcome to the oldest revelation around, the one started by Jesus Christ.

Question: What do you think? Can we make this work? Is it important? Will you join me?

Happy Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. Most would think I’d write a poem about this great man or the Civil Rights Movement today, but I’m not. Not because I don’t like him, I’m amazed by him and the way he went about civil rights. I’m in pure awe of him and I just don’t think I could do justice to Dr. King or the Civil Rights Movement. Also, I think plenty of other bloggers have,or will be, writing about him or the movement today or in the near future. Instead, I had a friend who asked me to write a post on breakroom etiquette for her because she is sick of all the nasty, smelly, mold growing, slime spewing things she has had to face in her work breakroom. I naturally thought, “wouldn’t it be fun to write my breakroom rules up in a poem…” So here it is, my poem on breakroom etiquette:

When sharing a breakroom, we must be kind
Don’t bring food that stinks or produces slime.
The microwave should be kept clean
So clean up your spillage, that’s what I mean.

Things to keep away from, I’ll give you a list:
Cabbage,kale, and boiled peanuts create a stench mist.
So don’t bring them in unless you wanna taste my fist.
I know, I know, there are some foods I have missed,

So lets get to rules you can always apply
To make sure your breakroom stays super-fly.

1. If your dog won’t go near it, you shouldn’t either
So don’t bring it to work, unless you wanna feel the fever.

2. Don’t leave stuff in the fridge indefinitely
Or something could happen to your car malevolently.

3. Use good containers that don’t let out smell
Don’t let it fall over or leak juices and you’re doing well.

4. The microwave is a privilege, not a right,
So don’t abuse it or you’ll be looking for a fight.

5. Don’t bring food that looks bad, like you just made it die
Zombies are in, but please don’t be that guy.

6. Finally, it’s a shared space, so I’d like you all to recall
What your mom would say about taking food that appalls.

Well I hope you enjoyed my little off beat, poetic look at breakroom etiquette. I you did let me know and share it with others.

Question: What rules do you wish you could enforce in your breakroom?

Question the second: What’s the nastiest thing you’ve ever witnessed in a breakroom?

Parking Lot Etiquette

January 15, 2013

This past weekend my wife and I went out to one of the main shopping areas around Jackson and it seemed everywhere I turned the Jeep there were people being jerks. On the highway and interstate as well as in the parking lots. I’ve done a post on shopping cart etiquette, but it seems there is yet more going on in parking lots that needs to be discussed.

What is the etiquette for driving through, and parking your vehicle in a parking lot? I’m going to clear up some of the major rules of parking lot etiquette that are constantly broken. If you don’t do these things, I’m very glad to have you as blog readers, if you do, please stop….immediately!

1st, the most basic rule. I don’t care how nice you think you car is, park where you are supposed to. That means if you are not handicapped don’t park in a handicapped space, obviously, but lets look deeper. I loathe when people take up 2 or more spaces with their vehicle. If you’re really that worried about someone dinging your car, park at the end of the row where people don’t want to park because it means they have to walk. Just a side note here, every time I see someone taking up 2 or more spots I immediately get the urge to scratch their vehicle. Doesn’t matter what kind. It could be a Geo or a Corvette; I don’t care, it just makes me so angry for a person to be that self absorbed and pompous to park like that and sets off something in my brain that makes me want to damage their vehicle. I’ve never followed through, but I’m tempted, and I know a lot of other people get the same feeling and they may not have my restraint. If you’re really worried about something happening to your car, park as far away from the store as you can. Usually, unless the store is packed, nobody will want to park that far away and have to do all that extra walking.

2nd, another easy one. Drive where you are supposed to. Don’t go cutting through five parking lanes, flying through the parking lot. The lanes are there for a reason, use them. Go up and down, don’t go across except where you’re supposed to. This also means you need to follow the directional rules. It’s arrows people, not a cryptic map, follow the arrows! Also, when you are in a double lane parking lot, one where traffic is supposed to go both ways, stay on your side! You’re not allowed to take up both sides of the road on a highway or interstate, why should you do it in a parking lot?

3rd, I have a less well known rule, but part of the code all the same. Some people call this the “don’t be a jerk” rule, but I call it the “it’s your parking space until your reverse lights are on” rule. If you want to have a snack in your car before pulling out, that’s your business. Do not, I repeat emphatically DO NOT, follow people with buggies or bags to their parking spot and then sit there, backing up traffic, waiting for them to load up and back out. This is just rude to the person loading their car, and extremely rude to everyone stuck behind you. If you see someone with their reverse lights on, trying to get out, that is the only time you are allowed to stop and wait for their parking spot. This is being courteous to them, similar to letting someone over on the interstate because they have their blinker on. These people want out of their spot post haste, so we can stop and let them out, and by doing so we get instant gratification by getting their spot. Following a mom with a full buggy and two kids through a parking lot and backing up traffic because you’re waiting for her to load everything in her vehicle is not only rude, but is kinda stalker-ish, and as such should be a fine-worthy crime.

To wrap up I’d like to note that some people’s problem with the first rule isn’t that their a jerk, but they just can’t park. My solution? Learn to park. Practice, practice, practice, and if you get out of your car and you’re not parked right, then get back in and correct it. I hope this little rant has been educational and I hope you will take my parking lot etiquette to heart and share it. These are things that should be taught and tested on in driver’s education, but they aren’t. Let’s make a change in how parking lots work, together.

Did I miss any rules you think should be on here? Let me know about it in the comments.

Happy Poetry Monday! It’s a wet day here, really it’s been a wet few weeks. Hope you’re having a good day.

Nothing’s going right, feeling quite down
You’ve fallen and maybe broken your crown.

There’s still hope, no reason to give in
There’s a good chance that you might win.

Take it from me, pressing through’s the best bet
The difference between winning and losing is how trials are met.

You can give up and quit, a loss guaranteed
Or keep persevering for a chance at the lead.

This one is kind of still in progress, but I hope you enjoyed it. Have a great week!

First off, I’ve got to update my last now promoting. I finished the second book in The Hunger Games trilogy, “Catching Fire” and the last quarter of the book was non-stop goodness. So if you’re like me and you’re having a hard time in the first 3/4 of the book, it gets really good towards the end. The third book, “Mockingjay” has been really good so far. Once I finish it I’ll decide which was my favorite and let you know.

Now for The Bachelor……let the craziness begin. I don’t really watch The Bachelor/Bachelorette, but I always end up catching the end of the show while waiting to watch Castle (a great show. If you’re not watching it, you should be). So, why am I promoting this show I don’t like and don’t watch? I’m not, I’m promoting Knox McCoy’s blog posts about the show. They are, arguably some of the funniest things I’ve read in a while. His previews of the contestants are hilarious. Check them out here for part 1 and here for part 2. I haven’t had a chance to listen to the podcasts yet, but I’m sure they’re equally humorous. Give your laugh box some exercise and check out tons of fun and funny stuff at knoxmccoy.com.

The last thing on my agenda today has to do with me. My wife and I have decided to get fit this year so we’ve been running/walking for a week this morning. We are doing something different this time. Instead of being driven by the scale we’ve taken base line measurements. We got our weight and our inches around the waist, hips, thigh, chest, and upper arm. It will be interesting to compare our future measurements to our base. I hope this will help keep us motivated. If you have any tips for staying motivated let me know. We’ve upped our exercise and cut our snacks, and when we do snack we are trying to pick healthier things or smaller portions.

How do you stay motivated to exercise and/or get healthy?

To a sad friend

January 7, 2013

Happy Monday! I’m not really ready for another week but its here anyway. Today I’ve gone through my archives and found a poem I wrote for a friend of mine who was really down about life and her options and future. It worked to make her smile a bit and cheer her up, so if you’re feeling down, like the world can’t be beaten, then maybe this will give you a little pick-me-up too.

Dawn is a new beginning
Another chance at life.
Dusk is there for an ending
And seeing if what you did was worth the strife.

On an early fall morning
Everything is clean,
So why should you be mourning
For spending yesterday unseen?

You have no reason to cry
For you’re still only a teen,
With a life ahead of you where you can fly
And reach heights to you yet unseen.

But for now, just live for today,
From sunrise until it goes down,
And as long as with me you stay
I’ll do my best to make you smile, not frown

I hope everyone has a good week. Be safe and take care.

I’ve caught up on all The Walking Dead episodes on Netflix (seasons 1 & 2). I don’t have cable, so that’s all I can get for now. I’ve never been a big zombie guy, but I really like this show. I like the comic book too. If you like one, you really ought to do yourself a favor and check out the other. I have made one discovery that left me feeling a little iffy. If you take out the zombie apocalypse what your left with is basically a soap opera. AMC has made a man soap opera. I don’t mean to upset anyone, remember I really like the show, but it’s true. Think about it and tell me if you agree or not.

Do you think The Walking Dead is a man soap opera?

I finally read The Hunger Games. It is really good. The book was very well written and the pace was great! I don’t normally like stuff that everyone gets into, but I really like this book. I’m having trouble getting as into the second book for some reason. It just hasn’t sucked me in as much. It’s still really good, jut not quite as good as the first one so far. I recommend checking this series out if your behind the times like me and haven’t already.

What are your thoughts on The Hunger Games? Which book is your favorite? Should I watch the movie?

I know I’ve already talked about Joseph before, but if you didn’t catch his episodic short story over the end of December you really out to check it out. It’s called The Other One and you really should do yourself a favor and read it right here.

What did you think of The Other One?

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