So, I want to preface this by saying I realize there are people who have genuine disabilities out there. I have respect for them and know they deal with a lot. I can’t imagine all they have to deal with. This post is not about these people. This is about people whose only “disability” is one of choosing, namely the choice of inaction.
I enjoy relaxing and verging out with a good movie or book, admittedly a little more than is good for me, however I don’t understand these people who won’t go literally 6 feet over to put a buggy up in a parking lot. Or how about people who are obese because of their own doing(not some glandular thing) and get on disability, which lets them park in handicapped spaces and use the electric carts in stores. Isn’t walking, the very thing society is telling them they don’t have to do anymore by saying they are handicapped, really exactly what they need to be doing. Our society encourages laziness. Drive around any big store. Everyone is circling looking for a super close spot,when, by the time they’ve backed up traffic in the parking lot waiting on someone to back out so they can get their spot, they could have gotten into the store and gotten what they needed and been back out in the same amount of time just taking a few extra steps.
I’ve actually seen people leave a mall because the elevator and escalator were out of order and the store they wanted to go to was upstairs but they didn’t want to climb the escalator like stairs. One flight of stairs people! It’s ridiculous.
How about people picking up an item in the store then deciding they don’t want it? Do they go two rows over to put it back? No, they just set it down wherever they are. Why? Because it has become socially acceptable to be lazy and impolite to strangers. Who is it impolite to to set things I don’t want down in the wrong place? How about everyone from stock people to other customers looking for that item.
It seems to me we’ve become a society in which everyone does the bare minimum we can and we hope we can get away with it. I’m guilty of this myself sometimes. In grade school my father helped me understand how doing a bad job isn’t really the enemy of doing a good job, but doing a good enough job is the real enemy of doing a good job. As I get older I see that more and more in society and in my own life. It scares me. I still need some work in this area. Maybe most of us do.

Popular culture

August 24, 2012

Ok, first off let me apologize for any crazy grammatical errors or spelling mishaps. I’m doing this update from my phone because I never seem to have time when I’m at home on the computer. Anyway, on to the post.
When did popular culture become so incredibly annoying and stupid. Not just one facet of it either. I’m talking about T. V., music, movies, books, every single part of it. Maybe I’m just getting old so I don’t get it, but it seems to me the people who were teen sensations of my parents and grandparents time may have annoyed the previous generation but at least they were talented. Look at the Beatles, the Mamas and the Papas, Buddy Holly, the Everly Brothers, Simon and Garfunkel, and the list could go on. Maybe you don’t like their music but you have to admit they were extremely talented. Just listen to some of their harmonies and musical riffs. The same can be said for actors. I don’t think there has ever been anyone so beautiful and talented as Audrey Hepburn, Lauren Bacall, Grace Kelly, or Ginger Rogers. As far as leading men the molds where broken after Carey Grant, Humphrey Bogart, John Wayne, and Jimmy Stewart. Now what do we have? A bunch of yahoos getting glorifying all the things that we should be against. Just look at television and the silver screen(should be tarnished screen now). What do you see other than people saying its fun and ok to have sex before and after marriage with whomever you want, doing drugs is fun and funny, breaking the law is cool, being a jerk to people of the opposite sex gives you power, and looking down on everyone else around you(this includes just looking out for number 1) is perfectly acceptable? The. Consequences never seem to match up to the sins and when they do everything works out ok because the people are really sweet and nice on the inside, they’ve just had a rough break. It’s ridiculous! All these reality shows drive me crazy. They’re not real! Go out and live a life instead of watching other peoples’ fake lives. Here’s a crazy idea for all the script writers; you can date someone and let the relationship grow towards marriage without the people having sex!
The music that’s popular here lately is the same way. Where the Beatles say, “I want to hold your hand” everyone nowadays says they want to get in each others pants. I know the Beatles were into all kinds of stuff so it’s a flawed example but nowadays people don’t even try to hide their drug and alcohol abuse and sexual deviances. They scream it out on the radio and their albums loud and clear. And, when they don’t, 9 times out of 10 they’re not talented at all. Maybe they can kinda sing, but they don’t write their own music or play their own instruments. People ask me what actors/musicians/writers I like all the time. My answer is always the same. I like talented ones. If they are skilled at their craft, I can usually find something to enjoy about them. The problem is talent isn’t the measure anymore, it’s looks Nd how much skin a person is willing to show. What do you thing? Am I just too old, or do I have a point?

Socks and sandals

August 18, 2012

So, real quick this morning, I was wondering what’s the deal with athletes, especially soccer players, wearing their tall socks with soccer slides? Ok, I’ll grant them it’s ok to do if you are going from your car to practice and don’t want to wear your cleats on the pavement, but why on earth are you still wearing them after practice? Take the socks off! You look ridiculous. Sandals, flip flops, slides, etc. are all supposed to be worn sans socks. What’s the point in wearing them if you’re going to shove your feet inside socks before putting on the sandal. The whole point is that the sandal, whatever variety you deem to wear, is supposed to be quick and easy to put on your feet, comfortable, and is supposed to let your feet breath and be free. Don’t torture your feet. Let them be free and wiggle your toes in the breeze. It’s good for you. It’ll make you feel like a kid again. Oh, and if it’s so cold that you have to wear socks with your sandals in order to not freeze, then wear shoes. What are your thoughts on the subject. Leave me a response and let me know.

So, you now what drives me crazy? People who ask questions then won’t give you the time to answer. I don’t understand it at all. At work people ask my advice on things all the time then don’t take it or don’t give me the time to answer their questions. Or, even worse, they let me newer then ask something else that I answered already so I know they weren’t listening or ask another question that is fishing for the answer they wanted from the first. If you know what you want to hear or what you’re going to do then don’t bother with asking someone else what to do. If you’re not going to listen to the answer then don’t ask the question, and if you’re worried you won’t like the answer then maybe you shouldn’t ask either. They say the truth sets you free, but to me whenever I try to enlighten people to the truth of a matter it seems to bar me in to having nobody listen to me. I’m not giving a dissertation to people. Many times I answer in less than thirty seconds. The only thing I can figure is that the art and skills of listening must be dead. Think about it. When is the last time you just listened to someone patiently and with all your attention on them? I find that most of the time we, this includes me, are never fully paying attention. Usually we are thinking about what we are going to be doing later or at least what we are going to say when it’s our turn to speak. Listening whole heartedly is hard. I think that’s what I’m going to work on this week.

My first blog

August 7, 2012

It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your front door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.

-J.R.R. Tolkien, “The Lord of the Rings, The Fellowship of the Ring”

This is a quote I really love from a set of books I have enjoyed from childhood until now and will share with my kids someday. I think it is appropriate for m first blog to start with this quote because there’s no telling where this could go.
In thinking of what to talk about first I thought maybe I should share about myself some. I’m almost thirty, married to my best friend, and a Christian. I’ve been very lucky in my life to have a family that loves me and opportunities to do some really fun and cool things. I’ve been a teacher at church for quite a few years. I started out doing Wednesday night stuff with 5th-6th grade guys then moved to Jr. High Sunday school and now Sr. High Sunday school. I love my each and every one of my kids. They are awesome and it has been a joy to teach them. I like board games and card games, video games, almost anything involving frisbees, music(making it or listening to it), movies and some T.V. shows.
So, why the blog? Well I feel I need some sort of outlet for my thoughts and creativity. I figure this might be a good place to organize and share what’s going on in my head. With the introductions out of the way now to the blog.
I’ve been backing a lot of projects on kickstarter lately and one of them is an art book by Creaturebox, the guys who do the ratchet and clank art work. This book is a throwback to the comics of their, and my, youth, like Calvin and Hobbes. It is monsters, stranded space men, and robots of all ilk. Pretty cool and fun stuff, if you’re into that kind of stuff. It’s made me go back to my Calvin and Hobbes complete collection and really enjoy Watterson’s art and stories again like the first time. He was really onto something amazing. His weekday comics were light and funny, but the Sunday comics pushed the envelope. Vibrant colors and strange places and things that could only come from a kids overactive imagination. Kids these days don’t know how to use their imaginations the way Calvin does or even the way we used to at their age. Why is this the case? Is it the abundance of T.V. that has taken the place of reading and being read to? Is it the word of video games? Is it the world becoming a darker place so kids can’t play outside anymore without the parents being afraid they’ll be snatched? I think it’s a blend of all these things. I love video games and movies and T.V., however if you look around at a family get together with young kids are they playing with each other, using their imaginations, or are they more likely to be on the latest handheld-this or i-that, hardly talking to others and getting frustrated when they are distracted from what they are doing? It’s a sad state of affairs when we choose AI and objects over real people and relationships. Francis Schaeffer wrote that we are to “love people and use things.” He went on to explain how we continually get it backwards and love things and use people. We love our stuff, our video games and cutscenes, our eyecandy shows and movies where something happens every 25 seconds because we aren’t expected to pay attention if it doesn’t. We let everything around us talk down to us like we couldn’t or wouldn’t understand or pay attention to it or them if they didn’t. We, as people, have to show that we are smart and enjoy thinking and imagining things. We must make a stand against being handed everything a minute before we want it and getting angry when we have to wait 5 seconds for something to load on a device that just ten or fifteen years ago was considered science fiction. Immediate gratification is ruining our society if you ask me. Going back to Calvin and Hobbes, I remember a comic where Calvin’s dad is getting the grill ready and Calvin keeps asking him if the coals are hot enough yet. The gist of what his dad tells him is that sometimes its good to sit back and wait on something. A little anticipation is good for us. When is the last time you sat back with a good book and got taken to a place you’ve never been before? Or maybe you’ve been there before, but it was a long time ago. Go back to the imaginary places of your youth and teach the young people around you the importance of imagination. It’s makes a world of difference in your life. It has in mine.

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